“This is not just a self-help book; this is a master class in couples therapy. Within these pages, you’ll read the kind of relationship advice you get from years of therapy. Iona even shares how she overcame her own marriage struggles, and it feels like you are hearing it from a friend who also happens to be a therapist. Anyone who wants to improve their relationship should read this book.” —Carla Litto, LMFT, author of Outsmarting Egomaniacs 

“In a world that so often works to separate us from one another and from our own hearts, Happy for the Long Haul offers a refreshing path back to love. Filled with insight, compassion, and practical guidance, this book helps couples move beyond the limitations of ego and toward deeper connection, trust, and understanding. It is both a hopeful reminder and a valuable resource for anyone who wants to build a relationship that not only endures but flourishes.” —Elana Epstein, social worker, recovery coach, and author of Today I Will Be Fearless 

“As a fellow clinician, I know how rare it is to find a book that bridges the gap between the therapy room and the living room—but Iona Monk has done exactly that. Happy for the Long Haul distills twenty-five years of clinical wisdom into something every couple can actually use. What makes it stand apart is Iona’s willingness to be both the expert and the patient: She doesn’t just teach the tools; she lives them. The result is a book that feels honest, grounded, and genuinely useful whether you’re in crisis, coasting, or somewhere in between. I’ll be recommending this to clients for years to come.” —Pam Stewart, RCC, cohost of Relationship Dish